"You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce."
Tony Gaskins (via thealderist)
When we assume that boys won’t read books with girls on the cover, and then institutionalize that assumption by leaving the “girlie” books out of award nominations (as well as school wide reads, story times, etc.), we insult them. By suggesting that on the whole our boys have a limited capacity for empathy, an inability to imagine a world beyond their own most obvious understanding, and an unwillingness to stretch.
In the same stroke, we neglect our girls. Not because they can’t read “boy books” (they do and will). But because when they see those awards, they also learn something —to accept a world in which they are rarely the central players. They learn, at a formative age, that the “best” books are the ones about boys.
It’s a problem. And when we play into it, when we accept it as THE TRUTH, we’re reaching for the simplest solution, not the best one. Because the best solution would require us to push against the gender bias in the world, and in ourselves. It’s easier to say, “Boys naturally gravitate to these things, and we want them to read, don’t we?” - Laurel Snyder"
Boys Will Be Boys, and Girls Will Be Accomodating — Open Ticket — Medium / The amazing Laurel Snyder NAILING IT with nuance and empathy and smarts. Read the whole thing. Share it. Yes. (via gwendabond)
WTF anon? hahaha you just made me laugh out loud (and flush) Thanks!
Because yes! Also belated happy birthday you awe-inspiring human being!
"Pain is important: how we evade it, how we succumb to it, how we deal with it, how we transcend it."
Audre Lorde (via triptothebackofmymind)